Confession: you're not the only one who has bad days.
It's a creative Thing, they say. An "artistic temperament" has your mood cycling up and down - one minute you're inspired and creative and you're going to change the world, and the next minute you're despairing and can't seem to tie your own shoelaces.
Now, an aside: if you're having serious mental health difficulties, of COURSE you must seek professional assistance and get the help you need, and I encourage you to do so. Please, please take care of yourself.
But what about the rest of us? Of course you can lean on your friends when times are truly hard, but you might not want to rely on them to rescue you every single time you wobble. What if you're just frustrated by the standard size emotional rollercoaster, and you want to get off it in a self-sufficient way without bothering others with your artistic flail-a-thon every other day?
Here's what I do to manage most of the hard days - and it's ridiculously simple.
Cathy--One of the best features of your site is that you don't hold back about your own creative and emotional struggles. I hope you will continue to tell us how you cope with your own ups and downs in making your beautiful work and providing services to others. I am a writer and editor by trade but also am fascinated by the costumers' arts and have a long and varied family history of textile artistry (long story). My challenge is against my often restrictive perfectionism and the frustrations that creates. I have a background in clinical psychology and strongly endorse your strategy of creating a personal journal of how you cope when the downs exceed the ups. I reject many of the self-help cliches and agree strongly that every person working in a creative field must have a very personal bag of tricks for dealing with self-doubt, waning confidence, the occasional desire to chuck it all because it just isn't working, the results aren't what you want, or the rewards aren't there.
Thank you Cathy. Such good timing. Tuned into you today after a mini-meltdown! My mantra for meltdown reversal is “ the drama of the past no longer serves me”. Thank you once again for you guidance and... btw where you are looks exactly like our house and decking overlooking the ancient woods we live next to. Thank you once again
Thank you again Cathy.. for a timely video. I swear the universe is plotting and conspiring in amazing ways! It's no coincidence. It's confirmation that I'm on the right path. I've chosen a path. It's barely marked but it's there.. and it's going to be a challenging one to ealk.. but my heart and soul are telling me to go this way. My meltdowns aren't that big anymore.. thankfully. I just need to be patient with myself. I recently came out of a funk. I was feeling so depressed for no good reason at all. Turns out my vitamin D was VEEY deficient. I'm on a super vitD supplement now and feeling better. I'm going to try laying on the floor though. That sounds helpful! Thank you again. ❤
I want to share with you some knowledge that helped me a lot with dealing with the stress of our work and the high expectations of our own mind. In the end, this is our strength, the endless fire of creativity + caring for the beauty of this world. You are not alone in your workshop :)
I sit in my car and scream. It really does not make me feel better. But it helps me to release muscle tension. Then I go to our bedroom and lay next to my kitty. She always has purrs for me and gives me little kisses.